Thursday, September 3, 2009

Thinking about empowering children without putting a world of expectations on their showlders.....

..."If we try to teach our children to see us as perfect, they will be terribly disappointed when our imperfections emerge, as they inevitably do. But if we teach them to see us as people trying to grow by learning from our mistakes, then we make it easier for them to see their own mistakes and failures as lessons to be learned from rather badges of shame and incompetence."...

"How good do we have to be?", by Harold S. Kushner- I read it a few years ago and it just sat there in the library looking at me yesterday so I picked it up and brought it home for another look. Its a thought provoking book, a good read definitely.

5 comments:

Kylie said...

Fabulous idea that I absolutely agree with. I do that very thing and it's so nice to see it echoed in a text :) Also, whenever my girls have said to me "but you know everything, mum" I always tell them no, I'm still learning every day. What a great quote! Thanks for this Annamaria - makes me feel I haven't failed totally ;) Kylie x

Emjie said...

That's a good tip. I wouldn't want to be perfect anyway, coz I like knowing that I can still grow. I hope I remember this advice for when my daughter is a bit older.

woollywotnots said...

Thanks for sharing this and the book. Great advice. I love hearing about all the books you read. My wish list is growing!

elk said...

my kids are well aware of my failings...and i am an easy cry so they have seen tears and all...

Nikki Cardigan said...

This book found you again for a reason, then you came to me for a reason. Thankyou so much for your comment and for this post. I would never expect my children to be perfect so I guess maybe I (we all) should give ourselves the same expectations.