Watercolor 5 x 7 inches
Watercolor, 5 x 7 inches
Dimitri, my son is moving out this week. Rea and Elli already
moved during the past few months. They are happy and getting on with their lives.
I have to say it has been an absolute
delight to meet them for coffee, or the occasional sleepover, and making Sunday the day to meet for a family dinner(a new tradition!) We have been developing a new type of
relationship. My mother mails me newspaper clippings and photos almost weekly. I find that I too
send my daughters emails with interesting links almost daily. They send me funny videos and
great music. We are in the process of creating something new, and I am really loving watching the unfolding of their lives as young adults.
I know many of you have very young kids still at home, and this must be hard to imagine.
We still have Lucy too, who is only ten , so we do have a few more years of hands-on-parenting.
All in all, I have found it a very hard transition, so much of my identity in the last two decades has been defined
by being the mother to my first three. For a few years I was a single mom with them, and everything in
our lives happened to all of us together. So I had to ask myself who was I now that they were
spreading their wings? Who am I when I am not a mom?
What kind of a mom should I be now to my young adults? They are not 'my' young adults for one. They are just that, young adults. Are they my friends? I don't have any answers.
It has been difficult to articulate this whole process. It still is.
So I am painting flowers. That makes me feel good. (without it being chocolate covered cookies)